Jeg har lenge vært kjent for å være over gjennomsnittet effektiv i hverdagen. Og etter at tvillingguttene kom til verden har dette blitt viktigere enn noen gang. Samtidig har jeg måttet endre på rutinene mine. Multitasking er ut! Jeg kan ikke skvise enda mer inn i hverdagen min! Kropp og hode sier stopp! Og må vi sende all denne e-posten?
Hvordan Få Ting Gjort?
Nå er podcasten om personlig produktivitet og stressmestring kommet. Under innspillingen ble jeg bedre kjent med Morten P. Røvik fra Getting Things Done, Skandinavias eneste sertifiserte GTD Master Trainer.
Om du vil være lære noe tips fra en mann, som rydder og tømmer hodet hver fredag, og tvillingmoren som jonglerer flere baller i luften enn de fleste, så sjekk ut vår Deloittecast.
For et år siden postet jeg dette innlegget – Am I Brave (enough)? En måned etter at jeg lanserte bloggen i 2015, bestemte jeg for å skrive alle innlegg på engelsk. I dag står jeg overfor et nytt valg. Det er en tid for alt.
Et Sabla Rot!
Valget jeg tok for et år siden hadde sammenheng med at jeg skrev både på norsk og engelsk i starten. Sidelengse reiseinnlegg på engelsk (hey, brettsportmiljøet i Norge er ikke sååå stort). Ledelsesinnlegg på norsk. Noen innlegg ble etterhvert skrevet både engelsk og norsk. Det ble bare et sabla rot!
Jeg har vurdert språk mange ganger, frem og tilbake. Fordelen med engelsk er at jeg kan dele og kommunisere med andre som internasjonale ledelsesbloggere, eksempelvis da jeg samlet de beste kvinnelige ledelsesbloggerne i verden! -> I Am Checking Out Other Women!
Det å skrive en blogg har vært utrolig selvutviklende. Jeg har utforsket og tatt tak i mange deler av min lederstil, mine arbeidsvaner og balansen mellom familie og jobb. Å dele egne erfaringer kan ofte være ubehagelig personlig. Å skrive engelsk har derfor vært et verktøy for å skape en avstand mellom meg selv og de blogginnlegg jeg har delt. Jeg vet at dette høres helt latterlig ut, men vi er alle mennesker. Det er bare slik jeg har opplevd det.
100 innlegg på engelsk har utviklet min engelsk enormt! Og jeg kommer til å savne utfordringen og utviklingen ved å skrive engelsk. 35 % av mine lesere har vært utenfor Norge. Det er jeg veldig stolt av!
Samtidig, hovedutfordringen ved å skrive på engelsk har vært at jeg skapt en distanse til de norske leserne. Dette synes jeg har vært veldig synd og er hovedårsaken til min endring.
Hva har skjedd?
For en måned siden gjennomførte jeg min personlige strategidag. Sjekk ut -> My personal strategy day! Gjennom denne dagen jobbet jeg med mine mål med livet. Jeg er en person som ikke skal angre på alt jeg ikke gjorde. Det er vanskelig å forklare, men det føltes som om jeg ryddet opp i et overfylt klesskap! Det anbefales!
Jeg hadde også en god samtale (og treningsøkt (selvfølgelig)) med min gode venninne Camilla, alias superblogger Treningsfrue.no. Camilla inspirerte meg til å rydde opp i sosiale medier og brukernavn. Jeg relanserte min SnapChat under eget navn og på norsk. Om du vil følge en annerledes SnapChat, så legg til ceciliaflatum.
Men tilbake til spørsmålet! Innebærer overgangen fra engelsk til norsk, at jeg har mislykkes med en internasjonal lederblogg? Jeg opplever ikke det. Jeg har en dårlig evne til å slappe av og nyte de små fremganger jeg har. Jeg løper alltid videre, jaktende på et nytt mål, noe større, noe mer uoppnåelig. Det er faktisk litt slitsomt! 🙂
Nå har jeg fått bena mer ned på jorden, kombinert med en sterkere indre ro og bedre selvtillit i forhold til å skrive en blogg om ledelse og livet! Jeg trenger ikke Go Big, Go Global!
Dette er jo mitt lille personlige, energiprosjekt. Og akkurat nå skal jeg bare kose meg med å dele inspirasjon på norsk!
Jeg vil høre fra deg!
Min blogg er dedikert til lesere som ønsker både karriere og et liv med familie og reiser. Eller kanskje du bare trenger litt inspirasjon i arbeidshverdagen. Det som står på planen nå er å fullføre min serie av innlegg som gir deg inspirasjon til hvordan du kan gjennomføre din personlige strategidag!
Jeg får ofte innspill fra lesere, kollegaer og venner på tema for innlegg, men jeg ønsker enda flere innspill.
Del i kommentarfeltet, på Facebook eller på min e-post firstname.lastname@example.org.
Takk til deg som følger bloggen min eller om du leser for første gang! Jeg setter stor pris på at du tar deg tiden. Du er min største inspirasjon til å fortsette å skrive!
Ha en fin søndag!
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Where’s your life heading? Are you conscious about your choices or are you floating down the river of life. I love the water, but I recently jumped up on the river bank to do some reflections! I followed an advice from my coach. I did my personal strategy day!
Is Life Over At 40?
Earlier this year, I wrote a blog post, which became very popular. I asked – If life over at 40? A mid life crisis haven’t stressed me. Still, I have felt a need to view my life in a new perspective. My coach encourage me to take a day to align my choices with my life goals. It made my think about iconic Steve Jobs, who said:
I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No‘ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
I postponed my day for months, but now it has happened. Over the next blog posts, I will share my experience. I can describe it like this. It felt like cleaning out an old closest called life!
And stay tuned, I will share all the tricks and tips on how you can do it!
The month before I went through with my day, I read the book No Mercy: Be Your Best with Mental Training by Erik Bertrand Larssen. He really hits a nerve – Imagine the day you die, what will you say to yourself? This mindset sets a perspective on life and gives you goosebumps.
You feel of sense of urgency!
I cleared a whole day. No one at home! Just me, myself and I. This was my agenda:
Define my life values
Define my life needs
Evaluate all parts of my life anno 2016
How do they match with my life values
How do they match with my life needs
What gives and what drains energy
Describe my life 2020 and 2025
Break – a good work-out
Write down my life goals
Five blog posts will follow. They will share tips and tricks for your personal strategy day! And I will share some of my conclusions.
I can only say – stay tuned!
I can only say – you should really do this! It unloaded tons from my shoulders!
Love from, Cecilia :*
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Let me tell you three personal stories. They’re all true, and took place over the last fifteen years. But first, let me share another story, which I recently heard.
A German mother was wondering why her son was crying. He told her, that he was upset, because he couldn’t be president. She asked wondering, why he felt like this? He answered:
To become president, you have to be a girl!
Throughout his whole life, the head of his country has been a woman, Angela Merkel. I don’t know if this story is true or not. But it shows the importance of different role models. Fortunately, millions of German girls know that gender is not a hindrance.
Back to my three stories. They are from the world of sports.
A Story From The Past!
More than 15 years ago, a talented, young snowboarder returned to Norway from the US. She decided not to follow her career as an athlete, but she wanted to be a part of the snowboard community. Thanks to an open recruitment membership at the national snowboard association, she found her way into organized sports. Her competence was needed, and soon she became an employee. She continued her snowboard career, but in a new field.
At the same time, another young snowboarder (me ;)) had left the university. I was picked up by the same open recruitment membership. I had no plans to compete in snowboarding, but I wanted to be a part of the social and creative community. My background from finance was also needed, and soon I became a board member.
Eventually, the two women, Dagfrid Forberg and I, met. We became a powerful leader duo, who went on tough, but fun journey. We didn’t plan to become leaders, but one thing followed another. For more than ten years, we followed our strong inner motivation. Our mission was to improve the conditions for every snowboarder to have fun on the snowboard. This involved a lot of work, including fighting the IOC and the FIS. Well, anyone can imagine, what a tough (and impossible?) job that was! 😉
Last Saturday, the prime minister of Norway Erna Solberg and super star snowboarder Ståle Sandbech handed out the snowboarders award of honor to Dagfrid and me. What a party! What a night!
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A Story From The Present!
Years went. One day, my dear friend and CEO of the snowboard association, Dagfrid, told me, that she planned to leave. It would be crazy difficult to fill her shoes. For a year, we had been discussing a possible successor. The association had several talented people in the staff, both men and women.
One young woman, Lisa Mari Watson, stood out as a crown princess. But we weren’t sure. Did she have enough experience? After a long and thorough hiring process, we had two choices. The highly experienced CEO around 50 or our more than 20 years younger crown princess.
We decided to trust our internal candidate’s potential and not count the numbers of years of experience. We hired Lisa. And she blossomed, took on the CEO position and grew into it perfectly!
A Story From The Future!
Back to last Saturday’s Snowboard Awards. I met so many great people and had a lot of fun :). On specific conversation, still gives me an extra big smile. I had a talk with a young woman. I’ve known her for some years. She is always enthusiastic with a strong inner motivation for the development of snowboarding.
She shared one of her goals – One day, I want to be the president!
How about that! I cheer for her and I´m sure that one day she will reach her goal. And she knows that anyone, no matter gender can become president. Hopefully, I have contributed to her motivation for setting this goal.
I hope more women dare to express their to express their hairy goals out load! And very important, I believe that we, “old men and women”, have a duty to inspire and mentor young people with ambitions.
Three Stories, Three Messages!
First, I must repeat that I strongly believe that diversity in top leader positions is important. Diversity in leadership positions, mirroring staff and members/customers, is important to take the right strategic and operational decisions. This is simply how you survive and keep up with the society! And by diversity, I think about gender, age and ethnicity.
My three stories from over 15 years, made me think of three things:
Diversity in top management creates different real role models that will inspire a diverse group of young people to pursue a leadership career.
Identify internal leadership talents early, and work actively with leadership development. When hiring the next CXO, evaluate what he or she will become, not only what the candidate have done!
A low-threshold and flexible recruitment to organized sport, will attract talents to leadership and technical positions!
Thanks for reading my Saturday reflections!
Have a great October weekend! Let’s hope it will start snowing soon! And want to get back on my board, with my favorite girls! <3
This week, I visited one of Oslo Innovation week’s 75 events! I listened to ground breaking thinking and got tons of inspiration. The result from the great power of power couples! Magic happens when oil engineers interact with doctors, when search engines co-operate with the Red cross!
What Is A Power Couple?
Are you confused? Did you believe that the era of power couples was over with break-up of Brangelina ;).
A power couple consists of two people or firms, that are outstanding in their field. They complete each others thinking and ideas. The couple uses their knowledge and experience from their own area to complete a common idea.
Strengths become super strengths and they make up for each others weaknesses! Innovation sparks, when power couples meet! 1+1 = 3! We have only seen the beginning!
My Power Couple!
The day made my think. Who would be my alter ego in a power couple? I must admit, that it was really difficult. Many great people passed my mind! A friend suggested Lady Gaga. My Alex said Gro Harlem Brundtland. A colleague said Michelle Obama.
I returned to my heart, to a challenge in the society that I want to contribute to. For years, I have worked to increase women in leadership positions in sports. Check out my blog post -> The World of Sports, A Man’s World!
I decided to go for Ezinne Okparaebo! The fastest Norwegian woman throughout all times! A great sports woman and role model. I just love her project Ezinne Athletics. Her mission is to inspire minority youth, especially girls between 10-16 years, to join track and fields.
My passion? To inspire young up-coming female leaders to continue their career and be socially involved!
Together – We would empower girls to join sport, as athletes or leaders!
Power Couples On A Daily Basis?
We cannot all aim for Ezinne Okparaebo, Richard Branson or Christiane Nüsslein-Volhard (Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine winner, 1995) as our partner.
I strongly believe that your power couple partner is closer than you think. Our challenge is that we, on a daily basis, tend to seek and connect with people just like ourselves.
If you want to be more innovative, develop as a leader and have more fun, you must be open-minded when you meet people different from yourself.
My Power Challenge For You!
Next time you meet your neighbor, get to know their passion and expertice
Next time you are at a conference, don’t have lunch with your colleagues. Sit down at table with strangers
Next time you read a story in the news about someone who fascinates you, get in touch, invite her / him for a coffee
Next time your management team has innovation on the agenda, invite someone external to challenge you. And please, leave the traditional meeting room for a more creative environment
Bottom line, be curios and don’t judge people who are different from yourself!
Maybe, the young woman with the pink hair has an engineer background, and will be the one who finish your sentences and fulfills your new idea!
This week, I had a challenging experience. I’m rarely nervous, but on Wednesday I had a volcano inside. I was so afraid to mess it up! The result could have been a shaking voice, stuttering or forgetting my speech. Fortunately, sprezzatura saved me again!
The Smell of Sawdust!
We have an old Norwegian saying – when an old circus horse smells the sawdust! This was how I felt this week. From 2003-2015, I worked a lot with sports politics. Then in June 2016, I was invited to the meeting concerning More female leaders in sports.
This week, I was invited to give a speech at the Ministry of Culture and Sports. I was honored and humble to be invited on this debate together with some highly experienced and great people from the Norwegian world of sports.
I was confident, when it came to my opinions and experience. Still, I didn’t want to appear as an old squeaking horn, sharing yesterdays news. I had to prepare well!
Preparations Are Crucial! Presenting Is Everything!
The topic was the Norwegian sports model in a new era. I studied and wrote down trends of the society, disruption, innovation, generation Z etc. I got valuable input from and aligned with the top management of the Norwegian Snowboard Association. I read different chronicles and reports. I chose a strategy and a few key messages.
I wrote the whole speech, made speaking points and the speaking cards. I practiced at home and felt ready!
The Taxi Panic!
If you follow my SnapChat, you will know that I had a panic attack in the taxi. What if I got questions, I couldn’t answer? What if I forgot my words? What if, what if? My brain and nerves were playing me a trick!
But I had trick in my sleeve. It’s called Sprezzatura! Let me tell you how it works!
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The Sprezzatura Trick!
I learned the Sprezzatura trick from two of my best friends. For years, it has been my secret tool to master stressful situations.
Sprezzatura means “a certain nonchalance, so as to conceal all art and make whatever one does or says appear to be without effort and almost without any thought about it”. (Source: wikipedia)
This is what I do:
I take several slow, deep and long breaths
Breathing out I say “sprezzatura” to myself
I image the situation, where I do the speech. I image being relaxed and cool
I can feel stress and anxiety leave my body and mind
I enter some kind of performance mode, almost like an actress.
I feel ready to perform. Bring anything on!
Over the years, the word sprezzatura brings on this performance state-of-mind easily. It’s like I have tricked the brain. I can easily hide how I really feel, what I think, behind a confident and controlled mask.
I believe you can use any word. But you must use the same word every time, in order to bring out this state-of-mind! But I really like the sound of my secret word!
Have a great Sunday!
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People often ask me: How do manage your work-life balance? Truth is! A work-life balance on a daily or even a weekly basis? Forget about it! It’s not possible, when you choose career and kids. If I struggle to achieve it, I would stress me even more!
What is work-life balance?
I turned to Wikipedia for a definition. Work–life balance is a concept including proper prioritizing between “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle” (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation). This is related to the idea of lifestyle choice.
My work-life balance trick!
So, it’s not possible to meet a work-life balance on a daily or weekly basis. My goal is to balance my life like this:
If I look back on my last week, it looked like the wheel on the left. Fortunately, the next week will look like the wheel on the right.
My trick is to not be to strict on myself, but to make sure that I dare to make some choices every week.
For me, the important is to have a work-life balance over time and try to follow a set of “rules”.
Weekends! I got a great advice from a colleague at work, a mother of three. The weeks are super busy. Weekends are dedicated to family time! Few plans, just the family of four hanging out at home or going on trips.
The flexibility of being a management consultant! Many believe that being a partner in a global managing consulting firm and a mother of toddlers make it impossible to have any kind of work-life balance. Since I work on projects, there are periods, when I have less client work. Then I must be cynical and use the flexibility. Take some shorter days, take a long weekend, work from my home office or a snowy mountain. Thank god for WiFi and Skype!
Don’t be online all the time! I try to not be online all the time. No one expects you to answer e-mail instantly. If it’s urgent, I expect people to call. You should also think about, how you structure your day. Check out my blog post about the magic hours!
Make some sacrifices! I cannot have it all. Sorry friends, I’m afraid that I don’t see you guys too much these days. Alexander and I have little time, just the two of us. My parents in law bought a cinema gift card for Christmas. We still haven’t used it. Maybe Jason Bourne will the movie to see sometime this autumn!
Have a fun passion project! Well, this one is easy, but it’s hard prioritize it. It used to be my volunteer political work for the Norwegian Snowboard Association. These days, it’s this blog ;).
What Can You Do?
Draw your own work-life balance wheels. Your goal balance and the weekly real balance over a period of a month.
Compare your life wheel? Are there big gaps?
Make a list of what brings energy to your life and what drains your energy.
Take some time to reflect.
Do you have enough energy sources, can you enhance some or create some new? How can you remove or reduce energy drains?
How can you close the gaps? Write down some specific action points. Who can help you? Your partner, your boss, your colleagues? I advice you to be open about your planned changes. Still, remember this:
If you want to meet the person who will change your life? Take a look in the mirror!
Remember, this is not a quick fix. You will have strict on yourself to escape the habit loop. A study shows that you will need more than 65 days to change habits.
This was my story. Over to you, dear reader! What’s your best advice for work-life balance? Please share it!
Balanced wishes for a great week! I look forward to some work days and the a long weekend up in the mountain.
I have a confession to make. I’m the worst multitasking person I know! Seriously multitasking!
In many meetings, I work on tasks or sort out my e-mails. When I walk with boys in the stroller to kindergarten, I attend Skype meetings (on mute), reply e-mails and sing children songs. All at the same time! If we watch a movie at home, I will write a blog post or check social media at the same time! No wonder my head feels overloaded!
Today, I read that multitasking can damage your brain. Okay, miss multi-tasking! Time to pull the plug! I must stop! Our brain isn’t made for multitasking! It’s not working well!
Why Do I Multitask?
First, human multi-tasking is not the same as switching between tasks. The latter is very inefficient and will definitely wear you out.
Multitasking is different! This is doing or focusing on more than one thing at the same time. Situations, like I shared in my introduction.
I multitask, because I have a lot a stuff that must get done. Meetings fill up my calendar. I have little time to work at my desk. So in order, not to work all evening, I try to get e-mails and “easy” tasks done all the time.
I have a strong belief that I have very good multitasking skills. I can listen to a presentation, write an e-mail and still be active in discussions.
My problem is, it has has come out of hand. After the twins were born, I have continued to multitask also at home. Working, blogging and family life have become a big smear!
3 reasons Why Multitasking Is Bad For Me And You!
Your brain needs a break! – My brain doesn’t ever get time to relax. I can actually feel that multitasking drains my energy. Even worse, research shows that multitaskers pay a mental price! The modern world is very bad news for our brains. They get overstimulated and a mental fog clouds our lives!
Is it really the answer to get things done? No. My experience is that you might be very productive, but in the long run, you’re not. We try to squeeze more and more into our workday. We try to work more and more efficiently, in order to stay on top of things. Instead, what we should do is say no, say later or delegate more. Set your own boundaries!
People find you arrogant – My family, my boys and colleagues deserve my full attention. Multitasking is a very selfish activity. I would recommend to stay focused. Instead, you should work differently, like cutting down on the length of meetings!
Recently, I have started to leave my multi-tasking life! Stay tuned for the next blog post, and I will share:
It’s a fact! Time flies! This Leadership & Life blog has been live for one year! One year ago, I was living the happy aloha life on Maui. It was family time, yoga, windsurf and blogging 24/7.
I remember, the evening I shared my first post. It felt like drinking a mixture of the sweetest berries and tabasco! Sharing thoughts and experiences is a funny-scary feeling!
Today, 365 days later, it’s time for a celebration for this little one year old.
My reason for starting this blog, was that I wanted to share some experiences and advices to people enjoying the spring of their careers. It soon became clear to me, that I also wrote to people who are searching for more or struggling with their motivation.
In addition, I wanted to share travel advices to the active family.
Seriously, it’s possible to have a career and time for both family and yourself.
When you lean in, be prepared for a punch or a lot of new insight and relations! I have received both. To my surprise, writing has been an energy well for myself. I have had to face challenges and develop myself in many areas!
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How are you structuring your day? Jumping from one task to another? Constant interruptions and constantly checking your e-mails or Facebook? Recently, I discovered the magic hours. I thought I was efficient, but magic has just happened!
My Inspirational Morning
The first change I did was stopping to check e-mails as soon I woke up! For some reason, I felt that I had to be on top of my workday from 6 am. Do you? Now, I’m trying to enjoy the morning hours. Listen to some good music, an inspirational video or maybe read a few pages in a book!
The Magic Hours That Will Boost Your Productivity!
Mr Dan Ariely, a behavioral economist and bestselling author, is the man behind the magic. He has shared six secrets to managing your time. His research shows that you are at your most productive are a couple of hours after you wake up.
My Tuesday Magic!
Very often, my days are packed with meetings. I mean packed! From 8am-17pm+! Today was different. My first meeting was at noon. Yeah! With the magic hours in mind, I made the most out my morning!
I dropped the boys off at kindergarten before 9 am. Then I had some incredible productive hours from 9am-12pm. This was GTD philosophy in action. GTD? – Get Things Done!
I checked my e-mails, then I shut down Outlook. Then, I was on fire! For three hours, I felt like producing a week of work! A day rhythm to copy! But this is not easy. I’m not completely in charge of my calendar.
Still, I can always do something. I will make an effort! Twice a week, I will try to make space in my calendar to make the most out the magic hours before noon.
And this afternoon, I did finalized my workday in an unusual way! Check out my Snapchat – username ceciliaflatum – to know the secret out what I did! 😉 Do it now! In a few hours, my snap story will be gone!
Have terrific week!
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